Mother’s Day without a mother is not just another day. Even if you are a mother yourself, when you have lost your own there is an important piece missing from this designated Sunday in May. Once a daughter, always a daughter.
The greeting card industry escalates an already difficult holiday to a new level and while you can celebrate your mother’s birthday in your own personal, private way, this upcoming observance is advertised and publicized, ironically, to death.
A few months ago I heard these wonderful suggestions for Mother’s Day for those of us who have lost our moms. I plan to put one into practice in my own life starting this year. (It works for Father’s Day, too!) Here they are:
- Call a friend of your mom’s. The two of you can remember her together. You may even learn something new about her or a memory you’ve forgotten may be recalled.
- Call the mother of one of your friends. Maybe this woman is like a second mom to you. You can thank her for the gift of her daughter in your life.
- Send a card or a letter to the mother of a friend.
These are all beautiful ways to honor your mom even though she is no longer here. It will also get you involved in the day in a way you haven’t been since she’s been gone. I know my mom would love this new tradition I will begin this year.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. I love you and miss you terribly. I hope I make you proud every day.
Yes, once a daughter, always a daughter.
