Although my husband and I have our annoyances with each other in the normal way that 30+ years betrothed do, we are good partners in the daily duties of life, as well as when the big things occur. We have very different personalities and dispositions, yet our interests and values align. I am as independent as I possibly can be with my limited sight, because of this Mister Rain doesn’t hover, allowing me to do things on my own, knowing I will ask for help when I need it. He operates under the premise that I am up for anything, I will tell him if I feel the proposed adventure may be too much for me from a safety standpoint.
It is very important to me that he be given the same opportunity, that my visual impairment not stop him from doing anything. Just because it would be unwise for me does not apply to him. During a recent trip to Maine, he climbed the iconic rocks both in Cape Elizabeth and Kennebunkport. Before he began his descent, he lined me up with where he would stand once he reached the ocean’s edge so that I could take pictures when he arrived where shale meets the sea. Otherwise, I would not be able to find him to capture him and the moment.
As long as danger potentials are within my parameters, I will not let my lack of vision stop me. Even more so, I will not allow it to prevent my husband from doing something either. I am happy to wait and cheer him on while he does a thing I no longer feel would be a smart idea for me. I insist on it. He watches me stick my finger in an electrical socket to plug in a cord and I sit on a bench while he scales the rocky rugged coast of Maine. Nothing says a happy marriage like standing by while a possible electrocution or a fall to the death takes place.
I should note that the other thing I insisted on was that in Cape Elizabeth he make the voyage down said treacherous rocks a second time. For his first trek, my phone was in the car, his was in his pocket. This was too good a photo op for Sister Rain so TAKE TWO!
Partners. I don’t call him Mister Rain for nothing.
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